Depression and Anger

There’s this dark side of chronic illnesses that not very many people like to talk about. Depression and anger are both significant emotions for those who not only have multiple sclerosis but PCOs as well. It’s as if getting diagnosed with both, you’re more than likely to, at some point, feel the debilitating side effects of depression.

For me, it always starts the same. I’ll be buzzing along, feeling fine when suddenly I’m hit with this overwhelming feeling of anger and dissatisfaction with my life. There’s never an exact cause to these feelings and there’s never one event or person that is to blame. It just happens.

For example, yesterday I was trotting along and feeling pretty decent when this dark cloud moved over me. It started with anger, this overwhelming anger that gets directed outwardly towards whoever is around me. Unfortunately, at that time, I was speaking to Steven. I told him that I had to let him go before I said something I would not only regret later but also something I did not mean. I knew it was going to happen, I could feel it welling up inside me like word vomit.

Thankfully, I was able to push these feelings aside while speaking to my roommates, as it would not have been fair to take this wave of emotional unbalance out on them. It continued, though, once I was alone in my room and alone with my thoughts. This overwhelming urgency to cry came over me, as well as this deep feeling of dread and sadness. I called and spoke to Steven and cried verbally on his shoulder. He was sweet- he listened and was filled with understanding. It’s moments like these that really make me notice the difference between someone who cares and someone who is just “there.” It also makes me thankful that I have the people in my life that I do. With him, it’s easy as he never passes judgment, never criticizes me or tells me that I need to seek therapy, he just listens. It’s exactly what I needed at that exact moment. It made a world of difference. My overwhelming emotional state eventually led to me passing out from sheer exhaustion. The one thing that really upsets me about these waves of depression is it leaves me feeling rather groggy and feeling like I’ve been “drugged.”

Living with these waves of depression is just a fact of life for people with MS and PCOs. I could consider getting it treated with drugs, which I would, if it happened more often than it does, but we’re already fed so many other drugs as it is. Ask someone you know, who has both MS and PCOs, to show you their drug cabinet and you’ll see a rather large assortment of drugs. What’s one more?

A brochure on depression from the National MS society states that “people with MS experience depression more than the general population or people with other chronic illnesses.” In fact, some research shows that people with MS may actually be more likely to be depressed because of the physiology of multiple sclerosis. For women with PCOs, depression is considered one of the symptoms of the syndrome. And since women are more likely to have multiple sclerosis than men and PCOs only effect s women, it makes sense that, as a woman, depression is not something to take lightly. For me, it’s like I’m the cream feeling in this oreo of depression. Eventually, it’s something I will have to consider seeking treatment for.

With that being said, if you happen to be going through the symptoms of depression, talk to your doctor. You have enough things to worry about- depression shouldn’t be one of them. And if you happen to be feeling suicidal, please, get help!

With all my love and encouragement-
Desiree

Record keeping is so important.

I know that once I feel better I'm going to leave this blog as a side thought and proceed through life until I need it again. I've got to stop doing that. I need to make the most out of this blog as a way to keep track of things, such as: what sets off a replase, how am I feeling, is there anything important about the study of this disease I should share.
I originally started this blog with the hopes that it would be a way for those seeking information to find it. Thus far, I believe I've been rather unsuccessful. The primary focus of this blog has turned into a sounding board for my complaints about doctors, insurance, employers, etc. Which, in a way, can be helpful to those who want to understand the difficulties some of us face. But alas, readers, I feel in many ways I've abandoned what I initially set out to do, to be a source of information, to record everything that's important both personally and medically. So, from here on out, that's my main priority. I will attempt to write everyday, even on days where the sun is shining and I'm out living life. I think these are the most crucial of days to document anyway, to further show that there can be light at the end of the tunnel.
Now on to the good stuff. The prednisone is making me feel like my eyes are glassy and everything is a bit blurry. I can't recall if I've ever had this side effect before, so I'm willing to take comments from other MS sufferers out there who have experienced this or know someone who has. It's making seeing difficult overall because everything is just so darn blurry.
The good news is that earlier I experienced a wee bit of double vision, which means something is working. If I cover my right eye and attempt to peer out with my left I can almost make out the shape of my hand but I have yet to see any defined details.
I called around today and found out information about applying for state medical insurance as well as food stamps to help me out until I can look for a job. Jan, Chrissey's mom, is bringing me home the applications because said eye complications are getting in the way of seeing the app online.
At their insistance I've begun to take Vitamin D and Vitamin B12 daily in order to get the vitamins I need according to MS recommendations. I know the B12 is supposed to help in the healing process of the optical neuritis. I can't say either way because I've been on the solu-medrol and that usually complicates research.
I've put on about five pounds since this process began last Thursday, which for anyone who has been on solu-medrol this is a small miracle. Usually at this point I'm bloated, retaining water and all swollen. My pants feel slightly tighter than usual so I know I'm retaining some fluids. I'm also incredibly thirsty thanks to the heartburn the solu-medrol and prednisone makes me have. I think it's one of the reasons I slept so terribly last night, the heartburn just would not quit. At this point I know adjusting my diet won't do anything for it so I just have to suffer until my body adjusts.
My mood is better today. Yesterday I had a bit of roid rage followed by a complete breakdown of tears and sobbing. I hate to get to that point but it was an overall emotionally draining day and I know, again, the meds don't help. In the end, it all worked out like Chrissey said it would and now I've got my oral meds and I'm a happy young woman. Each day is another step towards recovery.
Since this flare-up hit me so suddenly as I arrived, I really haven't had the chance to reflect on my life back in Syracuse or even had the chance to explore my new surroundings. I have to investigate how I feel about leaving my husband and my old life behind, but I think that can wait. I have the feeling it's going to be a difficult situation to think about but I'm not blind (haha) to the fact that I know I made the right decision. I'm craving the chance to get out and really see things. I've been taking brief trips with Chrissey when we have the opportunity and being so blind I just feel like I'm missing everything. I'm excited to get to the point where I will be able to drive again. I think that's the part that makes me the most miserable, the not being able to drive bit. I love to drive, it's where I go to think and get away and right now I'm getting some serious cabin fever.
All in all, despite everything, today is turning out to be a good day. Even when you're sick you're entitled to those moments where everything is calm and at peace. I like that.